It takes two to tango in any relationship and even more so in couples/marriage counselling. Even if one of you want to see a counsellor, the other person might not. This is often the primary problem that keeps couples out of the counselling room.
Most of the time, one person in the relationship doesn’t want to go to a therapist because they think nothing is wrong or they can solve it on their own. They may also be afraid that the therapist, a third party, would blame them for the problems they face as a couple.
It’s important to remember that a therapist isn’t just any third party – they’re an objective professional that helps both people in the relationship. By going to therapy with your partner, you’re showing that you care about them and the relationship enough to step out of your comfort zone.
You might think that you don’t need counselling because your relationship doesn’t have problems; but couples/marriage counselling isn’t just for troubled relationships. A good counsellor can help you find ways to improve your relationship satisfaction and set you and your partner on the happy life you two deserve.